This blog is for anyone who has ever struggled to achieve a goal you set. Today, I will introduce STEP-2: Desires & Vision of my New Year’s goal ritual, along with tools to help you clarify your deepest desires and big vision! But first, I want to talk about YOLO. You Only Live Once.
For me, YOLO has a very deep and personal meaning. Before this acronym existed, I had to face reality that life is short when my best friend died in a car accident. This loss, and others, ultimately caused me to question what I really wanted for my life. I understood more than ever that life itself is truly our greatest gift.
Because we only live once, I decided to become the best version of myself. I vowed to make the most of my life and goal setting became a huge part of that. Have you ever had an unannounced event that sparked a desire in you to make a change?
I knew I needed to have a clear vision and know exactly what I want in life. But clarifying my vision was NOT EASY. Goals use to make me feel anxious, overwhelmed, and disappointed. Especially if I didn't achieve the goals I set out to do. Maybe you can relate.
But NOW my goals make me feel empowered, joyful, and alive. I know exactly what I want from my life and have a map to get there. I am beyond excited to share with you the techniques to help you THRIVE when it comes to your goals.
NOTE: If you haven’t finished up STEP-1: Reflection from my last blog, How to Fail-Proof Your Goals and Finally Start Living, go there and do that first.
Let’s Start with Desires: How Do You Want to Feel?
My favorite book of 2015 was The Desire Map, by Danielle LaPort. It’s a brilliant, light, and refreshing read. The book explains why we have goal-setting completely backwards.
“You’re not chasing the goals themselves. You’re chasing the feelings you hope attaining those goals will bring you.” -Danielle LaPort
Whether we're conscious of it or not, every external goal has a deeper feeling driving the goal. We set goals like, I want to lose weight; I want to run a marathon; I want to travel; I want to make more money; etc. But it's not those goals we actually want. What we really want is to feel more happy; healthy; wealthy; appreciated; adventurous; connected to family; sexy and confident; intelligent; free; secure; loved; etc! Bottom line, there’s always a why or feeling our soul craves when we set a goal.
Danielle LaPort suggest we first decide how we want to feel moment to moment of every day, then (and only then) we set our New Year’s goals. When we do this, we will set more soul goals that align with our deep desires. Rather than feeling anxious or disappointed about goals, we will feel empowered and joyful. Soon, making choices that align with our goals will become second nature.
“When we make feeling good a priority, everything changes.” -Danielle LaPort
Keep in mine that once you become clear on your top desired feelings your goals may change. Begin to prioritize how you want to feel not only when you achieve the goal, but also on the journey to the goal. Because we only live once and none of us really know how long that journey is going to be. Therefore, it's necessary to enjoy every single moment of it (or at least try to).
Danielle LaPort calls her theory, The Strategy of Desire. And it works! I personally owned my four core desired feelings every single day last year to guide my decision making. I must have said, “I desire to feel vibrant, passion, security, and adventure,” thousands of times in 2015. And as a result I felt more vibrant, passion, security, and adventure! It was pure magic.
Now Let’s Talk Vision: What Do You Want?
Have you read, Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill? Another must read! My biggest take away from this classic success book was Principle 1: Definiteness of Purpose.
“Whatever the mind can conceive, and believe, the mind can achieve.” -Napoleon Hill
Everyone's definition of success is different. Keeping your desired feelings in the forefront of your mind, think about type of lifestyle you want to have. explore your sense of mission and purpose. Think big and aim high. Owning what you want sets unseen forces and synchronistic energies in motion to make your vision your reality.
Napoleon Hill advises, write a statement of what you desire most in life and what you will give in return. Then, memorize and recite your vision at least a dozen times daily.
This simple act changed my life. After writing it all down, I made a voice recording on my phone of All I Desire and All I will Give (about 2-minutes long). I also added in my 4 desired feelings. I listen to this almost everyday and repeat it with conviction.
The idea of knowing exactly what I want in my lifetime use to scare the hell out of me, but not anymore! Now I feel complete euphoria whenever I express my vision and desired feelings. Slowly but surely, the life I envisioned is manifesting around me.
So now it’s YOUR turn! I hope you didn’t read this far only to not take action. Take the time and do the work. I’ve seen massive success using these tools and you will too! Finish the action steps below, and check back for STEP-3: Goals.
Thank YOU so much for taking the time to read this and set goals with soul this year. Don't forget to scroll down a little further on my blog to leave a comment or question. I value all feedback and would love to hear from you.
Action Tips for Step-2:
First: Uncover Your Core Desired Feelings
Read The Desire Map, and do the workbook! Once you select your top 3-5 desired feelings, write them down. Place them somewhere you look every single day. Maybe on your bathroom mirror, or on a notecard you tape to your desk. Recite them first thing when you wake up, and multiple times throughout the day.
Second: Record Your Vision Statement
Write down: what you desire most and what you will give in return. Record your vision statement onto your phone, and recite it multiple times daily. Remember YOLO, so think big with your vision! Having clarity on what you want to have and give is SO liberating. Add in your core desired feelings into your vision statement. Grab an audible version of Napoleon Hill's famous book for less than $5 here.
Third: Create Your Vision Board
Create a vision board. Or a vision wall. Or a vision box! As mentioned in the video, I created a vision box that I keep on my dresser and unpack often. It’s decorated with powerful words, and filled with quotes and pictures that align with my life vision.