Procrastination and fear is why this blog post took me over a month to complete. Goal setting (yearly and usually weekly) is something I've been devoted to for years now. I follow many entrepreneurs and success gurus via their books, email subscriptions, blogs, podcasts, You-Tube videos, webinars, Facebook, Instagram, and Linked-In (just to name a few). Point is, I'm not hurting for inspiration or information to write about. Yet I still felt blocked.
Sometimes I'm a perfectionist. Like anyone unwilling to settle for a average, I hold myself to really high standards. When I don't meet those standards I freak out. The truth is, because I haven't seen massive success on my own 2016 goals YET, I felt that I wasn't worthy enough to write this blog. Acceptance of my own imperfections is honestly something I'm still working at.
So I said f@*k it, and I un-published STEP-1 and STEP-2 of my fail-proof goal ritual from my blog. And it felt selfishly good. The dark cloud that had been lingering over my head started to blow away and I was relieved!
Until a mentor challenged me to FINISH this blog, reminding me that real growth happens when we break through our comfort zone. Plus, if just ONE single person reads this and achieves a new level of success this year, it was all worth it. If you are that one person, this is for you.
I'm going to skip the facts and statistics about why goals setting is so crucial to your growth. Just trust the magic! Assuming you've completed STEP-1 and STEP-2, let's dive right in to setting your goals. This is the juicy stuff!
Keep in mind, these are tools that I have seen results using, but everyone is unique. You may love these ideas, or hate them. You may see massive success using these tools and tips, or you may just have to keep testing methods until you find what works for you. But if you never try, you will never know. Why not give it a go?
STEP-3: Soul Goals & Habits
First, create an inspired environment and mindset. You could go somewhere beautiful like a mountain top, or simply roll out your yoga mat and lite a candle at home like I did. Have your vision board in sight and lay out some motivation. Reignite your core desired feelings and vision statement from STEP-2, repeating them with conviction. Do what it takes to turn on your inner mojo.
Second, complete your life wheel. Download this sacred tool here. Use the categories provided, or create your own. Rate your satisfaction of each category on a scale of 1 (completely unsatisfied) to 10 (super satisfied), by shading in that section of the circle. Don't over think this, it's should take 2-minutes max to finish your assessment. If you filled in all 10s and have a perfectly unbroken circle, then stop reading this blog because I can't help you. Most people will have a scattered broken circle. This represents the imbalance we often fall into through the ebb and flow of our life. Don't worry, you will re-prioritize by setting more soulful goals.
Third, write down what you want. What are the key things that will make you feel unbelievably incredible this year? What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Reflect on your life wheel for clarity, and pay attention to the categories you are currently the least satisfied with. Those areas where you're hurting the most are the ones you want to set goals in first. Think big. I know setting bold goals can feel overwhelming, but if you don't challenge your limits you will never expand past your current situation. Failure is scary but living a mediocre boring life is even worse.
Fourth, before you commit make sure your goals are SMART goals. Are they Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely? This time tested goal setting method is discussed in detail on the free Entrepreneurs on fire podcast. Take 20 minutes to listen to this podcast to gain even MORE clarity on your goals.
Fifth, own your why. As mentioned in STEP-2, there always a deeper why behind every surface goal we set. Simon Sinek has a great TED talk, Start With Why. If you don't have a strong enough reason to continue fighting for your goal then one day you will quit. Your why can include your core desired feelings from STEP-2 and other compelling motivators. Your why can be fueled by what you desire most or by future regrets you want to avoid.
Sixth, once you finish writing your goals tell three people, then throw them away. Or mail them to someone you trust. Or burn them. Seriously. Once you've gotten clear on what you want, let it all go. That way you don't feel anxious or pressured by them. If the why behind your goals is strong enough, the how will work itself out. Keep in mind that this is for your BIG scary long-term goals. I still write down my smaller goals and refer to them weekly.
FINALLY, commit to new habits. Although I've known the power of habits for a while, James Clear's writing on keystone habits and habit stacking is changing my life! You can get his free E-book on habits and soak up the powerful ideas here. Mastering the daily habits that support your goal may have a greater impact than focusing on the goal itself. I've also been inspired Daren Hardy's book, The Compound Effect. Because there's so much I want to say on this topic, I will have to expand on habits in a future blog!
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this blog. I value your feedback and would absolutely love to hear from you in the comments below.
My challenge for you this week is to publicly commit to one new habit in the blog comments below. Then email me your commitment to email@example.com and I will personally support you in mastering that habit!
Much love, respect, and gratitude to you. Namaste, Meg.