The Love Adventures of Ryan & Meg video is my personal love story. As you will see in the video, we have shared a thrilling few years together. Especially this last year of traveling and living abroad. But love isn't so much measured in the good times, as it is in the rough times.
What you won't see in the video are the moments that built the foundation of our love and trust. The challenges of a relationship and life that no one wants to capture on camera. These low times are what will make or break a relationship. I will dive deeper into these in a sec. But first, check out the video I made of some never before seen footage of our adventures:
Our Love Story
Truthfully, Ryan came into my life when I was in a phase of, "I'm so over dating. I don't need a man." Haha! Then slowly over beach days in San Diego and football games (Seahawks and Michigan State) we grew closer. Something kept magnetizing me to him. I mean he did cook dinner for me on our very first date. We soon bonded over hikes, Sunday-Fundays, and yoga on the bay. Ryan started coming to the yoga classes I taught twice a week religiously. He was really trying to impress me back then. And it worked, I fell for him hard.
Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement; trust isn't a grand gesture, it's a growing marble collection. -Brené Brown
I love that quote by Brené Brown from her book Daring Greatly. She spent decades researching what builds trust and helps a relationship endure. She discovered that trust isn't so much about the grand gestures, but rather the small ones that add up over time. Her research was made famous through her Ted-Talk. Today, that talk is one of the most viewed on Ted.com with more than 24-million views! It has been translated into 52 languages and is a must watch. You can see her talk, The Power of Vulnerability, here.
The greatest struggles of our relationship are not seen in this video. I have found that love is not so much built during the good times as it is in the bad. Like when Ryan drove up to Los Angeles with me to visit my best friend Mari in the hospital. Or the next time when he accompanied me to say my final goodbyes to her. Or the weeks and months after when Ryan's voice, presence, and patience comforted me through my grief. These are the moments that bonded our souls. The moments that filled my marble jar.
I remember the first fight we ever had. I automatically went into my typical mode of being stubborn and not wanting to talk about the situation. But Ryan wouldn't allow my childish behavior to win. He drove straight over to my house and made me sit down and talk about it right then and there. He was able to bring out the best in me. Now, we work everything out one conversation at a time.
Living abroad brings it's own unique set of challenges. Luckily we tested the waters of living together for 5 months before taking this journey. But that was when we had an apartment with an actual bedroom, not the tiny studio we have in Taiwan! Space. I miss having my own space. Since we have the exact same schedule we are ALWAYS together. It's great...most days. But when one of us is showering, the other person can't even pee without getting completely soaked. Showers aren't guaranteed to come with a door or curtain in Asia. I'm just thankful we have an actual toilet, opposed to squatting over a hole in the floor.
Thankfully I had Ryan here to take care of me both when I got pneumonia and food poisoning here in Taiwan! Obstacles like this can really bring you closer in a relationship, especially when you live in small box. He has officially heard and seen me "get sick" in every possible way you can imagine. It was not a pretty site.
We're a thousand miles from comfort, we have traveled land and sea. But as long as you are with me, there's no place I'd rather be. -Clean Bandit
Of course it's not just me always having to be rescued. Our first night in Bangkok, Thailand was a bit overwhelming, especially for Ryan. It took us forever to find something to eat that first night in a chaotic city of nearly 10-million people. Ryan was starving. By the time we got our food, it was so spicy that neither one of us could finish it. I've learned when he goes too long without eating, his evil side comes out. His hunger mood swings are now something I now try to plan ahead for.
Then there was going from a secure banking job in the paradise of San Diego to teaching dozens of wild and crazy kids in the unbearable heat of the Taiwan summer. This was NOT an easy transition for him to make. There were times I could tell Ryan was miserable and missed his family deeply. These were my opportunities to fill his marble jar. Each small act of love and gratitude we show one another strengthens not only our bond, but also our faith that life has our back.
The Video Footage
So now for what's actually in the video. It's a collection of the most exhilarating best moments of our romance. It highlights all our travels and favorite moments including:
- Living in San Diego, California
- Venturing across the borders of Mexico
- Visiting Ryan's family in Michigan and my family in Washington
- Traveling through Thailand
- Living in Taiwan
- Exploring the Philippines
- New Years in Hong Kong
I hope you enjoyed some never before shared photography and videos of our travel adventures. Did you watch all the way to the end and see the special bonus footage? Lol if not, watch again because you won't wanna miss that!
To our Friends and Family
We are so grateful for all your support in our journey abroad. The WhatsApp messages, emails, phone calls, FaceTime chats, and Facebook comments have really got us through the difficult times living abroad. We love you and miss you!